My hands were trembling while typing my Appeal for my boss requesting her to honor the contribution of members of the LGBT community especially in attaining our organizational mission and vision. At first, I was cautious because I knew that my message might insult the conservatives in the office. However, one’s religion should not be an issue when one’s worth, dignity, and existence are in the chopping board. I crafted the most passionate email I could ever imagine. Using all the skills I learned from Law School and from the psychology books I read, I laid down a message that they could not possibly disregard. I knew that I was about to test deep-rooted values, solid dogmas, multifarious of biases.
I started the email saying:
The discrimination against members of the LGBT community in the country is not a secret, corollary to this, are their significant sacrifices and selfless contributions in support to our mission and vision as an organization.
That time, tears started to form in my eyes but my vision was not clouded, I was resolute to get the message across.
This dynamic can be seen in our country’s experience with gay and lesbian rights. Since 316 BC, gays were prosecuted, placed inside lion dens, crucified, skinned while alive. Today, these most brutal machinations have evolved into policies, guidelines, and pronouncements that brand LGBTs as immoral, second class citizens, and even considered homosexuality as an illness, until this year, it was overturned by the World Health Organization. However, this stigma concerning members of the LGBT community are enabled by mere silence and insidious and blinded acceptance of the society.
There I immediately built the background. I specifically used 316 BC to emphasize that these cruelty and discrimination are happening since the beginning of time and 21st century science had already overturned some of their painful generalizations of homosexuals for example. It was necessary also to point out that these barbaric maneuverings in the past have evolved into policies, guidelines, etc that preserve the evils of the past. My third paragraph reads:
I am writing shine a new light to the eclipsed contribution of the LGBT community in nation-building. I am not writing to demand people to accept homosexuals as saints, what I plead, is that, now, we acknowledge that homosexuals etc are like us, they breathe like us, they work like us, they are with us from the beginning.
I was ready that time to hand over my resignation letter. I knew that challenging the system again might result to my demise. But the principle that I am fighting for is more important than any position or any security of tenure. I could not stay silent when I could actually speak respectfully on the possible merits of my advocacy.
Since I started this job, I’m thankful because here, we value inclusion. But how about our LGBT professors and consultants who helped us build our projects? How about the youth LGBT organization in Cebu? how about our gay suppliers, drivers. Are their contributions less compared to straight men and women?
Tears fell and these tears smooched my keyboards. But instead of pressing the backspace to delete my draft, I chose to press the (coma) and continue writing.
Our Facebook page celebrates Fathers day, Mothers Day, International Women’s Day, all of these are celebrations based on sex and marginalization. Sadly, we forget to celebrate our brothers and sisters in the community.
We have (2) days left before the Pride month celebration, the community since 2012 are watching us. I pray that we take the positive stance against discrimination and violence toward LGBT people to promote, increase their visibility as a social group, build community, and celebrate their contribution in building our vision, this Nation, no more no less. They too deserve it.
Then I press send.
Stillness then filled the entire office. My workmates were mute the whole day. No one raised a question or any response to the email I sent. Then, I understood maybe, I hit a string, or maybe my message was not good enough worthy of their attention.
After 24 hours, I received an email from my boss, she said.
Mikee, I acknowledge that their [LGBT’s] contribution and struggle are real. I also understand your empathy and concern for our partners who may not have the same experience of inclusion as we enjoy.
Let’s celebrate PRIDE MONTH later.
The response of my boss made me to love her more. Her words were full of empathy and by mere acknowledging that our contribution and struggle are real, elevated her to be one of the best leaders in the workplace here in the country. Now, I even realized that yes, we may have differences, but mere differences do not divide us, what divides us is our inability to celebrate and acknowledge these differences.
The struggles of the LGBT community are real, yes. And like any other political movements, we should start the movement in the ground. Our strategy should come in a place closest to our hearts. Our legacy should start in one small step at a time, one door at a time, one person, one friend at a time.
All men and women are created equal in dignity and in rights. And my boss upheld this belief and opened her heart for me.
There is hope.